Safe, sane, and consensual.

Thursday 18th of August, 2005 - 12:03 – Permalink

Western culture seems to be obsessed with sex, or rather, obsessed with arguing about sex and the role of sex in various media. It's a weird world of double standards, really. It's OK to have videos which objectify women clad like hookers on MTV 24 hours a day, but when a nipple slips into view at the superbowl there is a huge crisis all of a sudden. Let's not even mention the whole "hot coffegate" scandal... (See entry for July 15th.)

So for all the confused teenagers out there, here are some very simple rules for you to follow:

  • Sex is best when you really, really, really feel ready. Ignore your peers. There is really no need to hurry.
  • Sex must always be safe, sane, and consensual: Use protection, don't have sex while intoxicated, and see to it that all parties agree on whatever is about to happen.
  • Don't use porn as a role model. Porn is a fantasy world, and should be treated as such. Porn is as realistic as the physics in the SSX snowboarding games.
  • The whole "Abstinence is the only option" thing is crap. BS. Stupid. Don't buy into it. Sex is a natural, yet serious thing, treat it as such.
  • The Internet is a great resource for knowledge on sex issues. Use it. Ignore the porn.
Finally, a snippet from the Personal Creed by Bishop Pat Buckley: I believe that sex is good and so is the body. The only sexual act that is sinful is the one that uses or abuses.

That's what it's all about, kids, that's what it's all about.